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As one child heals, family prepares to adopt another

December 31, 2011

DARBOY — A year after enduring a stem cell transplant that could ultimately save his life, Charlie Knuth, 5, is focused on one thing — being a little boy.

“He plays like a regular kid,” said his mother, Trisha Knuth. “Charlie is happy, the family is happy and he’s not in pain. That’s really what matters right now.”

Charlie has the rare skin disease epidermolysis bullosa, commonly known as EB.

Born without the protein that binds skin together, Charlie’s body once blistered badly inside and out, a painful condition that typically leads to a lethal form of skin cancer. But that was before the Dec. 30, 2010, bone marrow transplant, which helped Charlie’s body produce the missing protein and strengthened his skin.

“He’s one of the kids that made tremendous progress,” said Dr. Jakub Tolar, Charlie’s physician at the University of Minnesota Amplatz Children’s Hospital in Minneapolis. “(Charlie) responded very well and he seems to be on the right track. His organs are functioning fine, and now he’s going to — I would hope — continue to heal.”

Abandoned at birth, Charlie came home with the Knuths from a hospital in Milwaukee when he was 2 weeks old. His adoption was finalized a year later.

Charlie’s remarkable progress has prompted the Knuths to adopt another child who suffers from the same severe form of EB that has shaped Charlie’s life. Trisha Knuth will travel to Washington next week to meet 6-year-old Seth.

“(Seth) is in a group home and he has never had a family,” Trisha Knuth said. “He’s in pretty bad shape.”

She said the outpouring of community support her family received during Charlie’s journey has prepared the family as they enter a new chapter with Seth.

“It’s a lot different this time,” she said. “Before all this happened, we were kind of alone. Nobody knew what was wrong with (Charlie); nobody knew how to help. And now because of all of the publicity and community support, I really feel like we have such a large support system that it’ll be much easier.”

The lesions that once blanketed Charlie’s small frame have largely receded. Just a few patches of fragile skin remain, and those are carefully wrapped with bandages that once entombed most of Charlie’s body.

“We try to leave as much skin as we can exposed,” Trisha Knuth explained. “It seems like the more we can leave exposed, the tougher it gets.”

Tolar said that’s precisely what Charlie’s skin needs to continue healing.

“The idea is to not cover the spots that are open wounds because the usual wear and tear of normal daily life is actually good for it,” Tolar said. “It informs the cells in the bone marrow to travel to the skin and make more of the collagen type 7 (protein) that he needs. There are several cycles of healing that have to occur to get the best result.”

The dramatic changes in Charlie’s life aren’t merely physical. Both his mother and Tolar expressed amazement at the way his mental and emotional well-being evolved as well.

“I can’t even remember the last time he cried in the bath (from the pain),” Trisha Knuth said. “From one extreme to this — it’s profound, it’s amazing.”

And the change in Charlie’s quality of life has rippled to the rest of his family, including his brothers, Alex and Hunter, both 16, and sister, Chloe, 8.

“Let’s put it this way — a happy mom is a happy family,” Trisha Knuth said, chuckling. “Before (the transplant) all of his pain and all of his anxiety was taken out on me because I was his main caregiver, so things were very stressful around the house. Charlie would deal with pain by acting out with hitting and screaming and calling names. He does not do that anymore, so everybody’s just very happy.

“My mom and dad have finally been able to baby-sit for Charlie, and that’s never happened. So me and (Charlie’s father) Kevin were able to go do something on our anniversary for the first time since Charlie was born. That’s a big deal.”

Tolar said it’s too early to tell whether the transplant reduced Charlie’s risk for developing skin cancer, but he said he’s optimistic.

“The model is that (EB patients) get skin cancer because of the enormous irritation of the skin,” he said. “So if you remove the irritation, you will remove the risk of cancer. But it’s going to take a decade or more to actually know if that’s the case.”

Tolar will continue to monitor Charlie’s progress and meet with him at least once a year until he turns 18.

For now, Tolar said, Charlie needs to focus on staying active and growing up as any little boy would.

“He’s as bright as anybody else and probably mature beyond his years because of what he went through and he should be given all the opportunity in life as anybody else,” Tolar said. “That was the whole goal of the transplant — to give him that.”

— Michael Louis Vinson: 920-993-1000, ext. 368, or mvinson@postcrescent.com; on Twitter @MichaelVinson

About EB

Epidermolysis bullosa is a genetic disease that makes the skin fragile, causing it to blister inside and outside the body.

» EB affects one out of every 50,000 children born in the U.S.

» EB is not contagious.

» The most aggressive forms of EB lead to disfigurement, disability and early death. Milder forms are not lethal.

» There is no cure. EB is treated through wound care and bandaging.

» EB can be diagnosed through prenatal testing.

» You can read more about Charlie’s journey with EB on the website for Pioneering Unique Cures for Kids, a foundation that funds EB Research. http://bit.ly/PUCK-Foundation

Source: The Dystrophic Epidermolysis Bullosa Research Association of America, www.debra.org; Pioneering Unique Cures for Kids

New Yorker critic fell in love early with classical music

November 13, 2011

A 2007 finalist for the Pulitzer Prize and 2008 recipient of the MacArthur Foundation’s half-million-dollar so-called “genius grant,” Alex Ross has become something of a popular evangelist for classical music.

A music critic for the New Yorker magazine since 1996, Ross has written two books on the subject: “The Rest is Noise: Listening to the Twentieth Century” in 2007 and “Listen to This” last year.

Ross spoke to students at Lawrence University in Appleton recently about common threads that unite musical genres.

“Classical music is just not as far apart from folk music and popular music as people may think,” Ross told The Post-Crescent before his speech during a joint interview with The Lawrentian student newspaper. “It really does all flow together.”

Here are excerpts from the interview.

How did you find your way to a career in arts criticism?

Ross: I hadn’t had a grand plan from childhood to become a music critic. I don’t know how many people actually do. I had been very immersed in music, playing the piano and oboe and also trying to compose. That was my great ambition as a kid, and that didn’t really amount to anything. At the same time I was deeply immersed in writing and loved writing from a really early age.

Those two tracks never really intersected until the last couple years in college (at Harvard University). I didn’t do journalism in newspaper or campus publications, but I did do the radio station. I had a couple different classical music shows, and I wrote little essays to go along with some CD reviews, which we published in our program guide. So that was the first kind of music writing I did.

After college I was looking at going to graduate school to pursue an academic career when I started getting freelance assignments. In 1992, the New York Times approached me about taking on a low-level, fifth-string freelance arrangement. Even then I was still thinking about graduate school, but when I got my first assignment at the New Yorker that was such a great experience that I thought, “Well, I’ll stick with this.”

What did you find so fantastic about your initial experience writing for the New Yorker?

Ross: It was so satisfying to have the time and the latitude to delve into a subject. I wrote one piece for the New Yorker about every year for three years, and then they offered me a full-time job. I would have a lot of time to ponder these things and to work on my piece.

Then when the editorial process started, it was just so luxurious. The editors I was working with were taking such a close look, but they weren’t tearing my prose apart and rewriting it. It was just a great conversation we would have about what I was trying to do.

I was torn between journalism and the idea of an academic career and this felt like a great place in the middle, where I did have time and the resources to go into something more deeply but I was still writing for a general interest publication.

It was a wonderful opportunity and also a challenge to write for a very diverse public, some of whom would know a lot about classical music and others would know next to nothing. The idea is they would be intellectually curious and willing to take on a subject that they might not be familiar with. I love that challenge, and I think it leads to good writing when you assume your reader is intelligent but not necessarily that he or she knows much about the particular topic you’re taking on.

What drew you to classical music at a young age?

Ross: The sound of it and the feeling of it were so exciting to me. I had no preconceptions about it, I had no stereotypes. I didn’t think it was the music of the past or rich people’s music or elite music. It was just there. My parents had a lot of classical records. They weren’t musicians, but they loved this music and I fastened on to it and got so obsessed by it so early that it wasn’t until much later that I was able to step back and see a wider musical landscape.

I really am a big believer in pushing back against some of these stereotypes around classical music. It discourages me when I see scenes in movies or even TV commercials where classical concerts always get depicted as a bunch of stuffy people in evening wear. When you go to a regular concert, people don’t dress like that. People dress up a little bit, in the same way they do when they go to the theater, but it’s really not that kind of an environment.

Some of those stereotypes are self-generated to a certain extent. I think classical music has had a problem with projecting a certain image and being a too reserved and too attached to some old rituals of behavior in the concert hall. That needs to be addressed, and there are some people who are really taking that on. They’re thinking about how we can do this differently. What is a different contemporary model that we could have for classical concerts?

If someone is curious about classical music, but intimated to delve deeper than Beethoven or Handel, what advice do you have for them?

Ross: People tend to be intimated by the classical concert, and they worry, “How do I dress? How do I behave? Am I going to clap in the wrong place?” This is just not something you should worry about. It just doesn’t matter how you dress, and you’ll instantly understand this whole supposed rule about when to applaud or when not to applaud by watching people around you. It’s not that complicated.

People also tend to be a little confused by the span of a big movement of a symphony. What am I actually supposed to be listening to? So many people have grown up with three-, four-, five-minute songs. Again, it’s pretty simple. There’s not a lot of intricate science that you need to know.

The best thing is just to go back and listen again to get to know a particular piece. Beethoven’s Third Symphony was something I listened to so many times when I was growing up. Once you’ve listened to it the third, fourth, sixth time, you really start to understand how it works.

— Michael Louis Vinson: 920-993-1000, ext. 368, or mvinson@postcrescent.com; on Twitter @MichaelVinson

Appleton’s diversity coordinator defends her work

November 9, 2011

APPLETON — An outspoken gay rights advocate in her professional work and personal life, Appleton Diversity Coordinator Kathy Flores has become a focal point in city budget deliberations.

For the second consecutive year, members of the Appleton Common Council are trying to eliminate or sideline her position amid concern her work spills beyond the city’s borders, most prominently on issues related to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community.

The council is expected to adopt a 2012 budget tonight and vote on a plan that could cut the position in April.

Flores also faces scrutiny from Appleton Taxpayers United, which formed in opposition to the council’s Sept. 7 decision to include registered same-sex domestic partners of nonunion employees on the city’s health and dental plan.

The group has questioned Flores’ support for the policy and her ties to Fair Wisconsin, a gay rights advocacy group that urged the council to adopt the benefits plan.

Flores said Monday she appreciates the criticism, calling it “an opportunity for discussion.”

“I think it’s a really good thing when people disagree with me,” Flores said. “Just because you disagree with me doesn’t mean you’re wrong (and it) doesn’t mean I’m wrong. That’s part of diversity. I don’t think the wisdom of the group works well when everybody thinks alike.”

Flores, 44, who has held the diversity post since 2009, said the pushback is a natural outgrowth of demographic and generational shifts that have gradually reshaped the Fox Valley in the past decade.

“Any time a community grows and stretches like this, you’re going to have conflicting views on where the community’s going,” Flores said.

Reaching out

Some aldermen have targeted Flores’ work outside Appleton, arguing that city taxpayers shouldn’t have to foot the bill for activities in neighboring communities.

“This really is a benefit of our surrounding community and not just Appleton,” Ald. Ed Baranowski said Tuesday. “With that being the case, it’s more of a regionalism perspective that we need to be looking at (for) positions like this that are key.”

Reviving the contours of an idea Ald. Jim Clemons proposed last fall, Baranowski, Clemons and Ald. Chris Croatt have proposed eliminating the position next spring if the city cannot secure enough grant money from outside organizations to fund it for the remainder of 2012.

“My primary goal for that amendment would be to make that a regionally funded position,” Croatt said Tuesday. “It’s my intention to keep it at city hall within the community development department. Appleton has a great need for that (position), but also the larger community has a need for it … It’s not the intention to diminish (the position). Hopefully it would grow.”

Baranowski said he hopes the budget proposal can help focus the position’s priorities.

“It’s not about Ms. Flores — it’s about the best person to fit the needs of that position,” Baranowski said. “Certainly, if it remains in the city of Appleton, there’s a defined scope of what that is. But I think there’s an opportunity here to even better define the scope of that position, if we were able to fund it regionally.”

Karen Harkness, the city’s community development director and Flores’ supervisor, defended Flores’ work outside Appleton on the city’s dime.

“Issues that come before us because of diversity and inclusion do not recognize geographic boundaries,” Harkness said. “Just because an incident or project or initiative happens in a neighboring community, that doesn’t mean that it’s not going to have some sort of effect on Appleton.”

For example, a cluster of suicides among gay teens in Outagamie County in 2009 and 2010 spurred some of Flores’ efforts in other communities, including Shiocton, where Cody Barker, 17, took his life after he was bullied at school for being gay.

“This is an issue that we could not be silent on,” Flores explained. “This is a very high-profile position. I’m a very high-profile person. I know that. I could not be silent on this issue. We as an organization couldn’t be silent on this issue. But because it is a controversial issue, that is sometimes where the lightning rod will go. But we stand by the work that this office is doing and I wouldn’t change any of it.”

Personal advocacy

Flores’ work on issues related to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community has raised eyebrows most often, in no small part because Flores is one of the most prominent openly gay officials in the Fox Valley.

She and her partner are intervening defendants along with Fair Wisconsin in a lawsuit that challenges the constitutionality of Wisconsin’s domestic partner registry, which is at the heart of the controversy over Appleton’s same-sex domestic partner benefits policy.

The city’s rule requires same-sex domestic partners to register their relationship with the state to obtain health and dental coverage.

Baranowski and Appleton Taxpayers United have proposed pausing the city’s policy until after the state Supreme Court has issued a ruling in the case.

A Dane County judge upheld the registry’s constitutionality in June, arguing that the registry does not conflict with a 2006 constitutional amendment that bans same-sex marriage and civil unions.

Former Ald. Jo Egelhoff, a leader of Appleton Taxpayers United, is a plaintiff in that lawsuit, along with Wisconsin Family Action, a socially conservative group.

Flores said she doesn’t think the line between her professional work and her personal causes has become blurred.

A leader with the group Toward Community: Unity in Diversity, who helped start Harmony Cafe in downtown Appleton and worked on community outreach at Harbor House for eight years, Flores said she has always been upfront about who she is and what she values.

“When I applied for (this) position, I was very well known already,” Flores said. “Everybody knew the work that I did. Nobody was blind about who they hired.”

Flores also rejected the notion that she spends a disproportionate amount of work time on issues related to sexual orientation.

“I spend the appropriate amount of time,” Flores said. “The (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) community and (related) issues are a piece of the pie. I work on issues within different communities … and LGBT issues are a piece of that.”

— Michael Louis Vinson: 920-993-1000, ext. 368, or mvinson@postcrescent.com; on Twitter @MichaelVinson

Zion Evangelical Church in Appleton to refurbish 1,200-pipe organ

October 19, 2011

APPLETON — It begins with a push.

Apply the slightest pressure, and the organ’s 61 keys will ignite a full-force, symphonic explosion of air and sound.

“It’s not like music out of a speaker,” said Greg Pettigrew, a member of Zion Evangelical Lutheran Church in Appleton. “Music out of a speaker you hear. Music out of an organ you feel.”

Pettigrew and the church’s organ committee have spent the last nine years trying to make the explosive power of the sanctuary’s 1,200-pipe organ even more dynamic.

The group has raised more than $300,000 to refurbish and expand the decades-old organ, affectionately known as “Bertha,” which has grown more difficult to maintain with time.

“We’re taking all of the old pipes out of the organ and we’re going to take them to Vermont to be cleaned and rebuilt and restored,” said Stephen Russell of Cambridgeport, Vt., who the church commissioned to complete the $500,000 project.

“Some of the pipes date back to 1901, and those are the one we’re primarily recycling (back into the refurbished organ). The old ones are the nice ones. After 60 years or so, the mechanism under the old organ was starting to have problems, and it was difficult to fix,” Russell said.

A volunteer crew of about 20 people dislodged the structure from the church’s balcony this week and loaded each piece into plywood boxes marked “trumpet” and “oboe” — a testament to the organ’s ability to mimic dozens of instruments.

“Churches can’t afford symphony orchestras,” Russell said. “(An organ) is one of the few instruments that can create very soothing, gentle music, or it can provide inspiring or even terrifying music. You can really speak to all the human emotions in the hands of a talented musician.”

Of those 1,200 pipes, about half will return to Zion Evangelical Lutheran next summer and 2,500 new pipes will accompany them on the return trip, nearly tripling the organ in size.

“It’s about creative special engineering,” Russell said with a chuckle. “There was a lot of wasted space the way the old organ was installed. … Right now they’re jammed in a little closet and have to scream their heads off in order to get out and be heard.”

As Russell puts his 42 years of pipe-building experience to work on the new and improved organ over the next year, the Appleton congregation will have to find a substitute for the music that has sustained services for more than a century.

“It really has led the people in song,” said Gwen Schwandt, co-chair of the organ committee. “It’s their prayers set to music.”

Until the organ returns, a piano will serve as the main source of musical accompaniment during worship.

“I think it will whet the appetite a little bit more of people sitting in the pews, because now it’s real,” Schwandt said. “It’s gone.”

Pettigrew predicts the church will have “a lot of opportunity to find different types of music, to have instrumentalists come in. We’ll have a great bank of people to work with even when the organ comes back.”

“Music is an expression of the human spirit,” Russell said. “It’s part of the whole fabric of worship. You can’t separate the two.”

How an organ works

An organ is essentially a giant set of whistles. An organ has several sets of pipes, and each set is known as a “rank.” Each rank sits on a large box that’s full of pressurized air. A so-called “stop,” or slider, on the organ console manipulates when a rank of pipes has access to the pressurized air. When the organ keys are pressed, a mechanism causes the air to rise, making a distinct tone and sound.

Source: Stephen Russell of Russell and Co. Pipe Organ Builders, Cambridgeport, Vt.

Zion Evangelical Lutheran Church

The congregation was first established in 1883, and the current structure at 912 N. Oneida St. in Appleton was dedicated in 1903. It was added to the National Register of Historic Places in 1986.

Source: National Park Service, U.S. Department of the Interior

Appleton Taxpayers United: City domestic partner benefits too costly

October 3, 2011

APPLETON — With Green Bay poised to reject a plan that extends health insurance benefits to same-sex domestic partners of city employees, Appleton residents and advocacy groups have praised and derided a similar policy adopted here last month.

Fair Wisconsin, the state’s leading gay rights advocacy group, applauded the new policy. Appleton’s diversity coordinator, Kathy Flores, said she has received only “very supportive feedback and comments.”

But a coalition of Appleton residents alarmed by what they see as an ill-timed, costly expansion of an already generous benefits plan for city employees vows to reverse the Common Council’s Sept. 7 decision.

Led by Perry Bovee, who penned a Sept. 24 letter to The Post-Crescent against the policy, and former Appleton Ald. Jo Egelhoff, the group — Appleton Taxpayers United — is concerned about the estimated $100,000 cost to the city next year, when Appleton faces deep cuts in state aid. The city’s preliminary 2012 budget plans will be unveiled this month.

“We have received an overwhelming citizen response opposing the recent action of Mayor (Tim) Hanna and the Common Council granting benefits to same-sex and unmarried partners of city employees,” Bovee and Egelhoff wrote in a statement to The P-C. “We are very concerned about the significant impact of this action on Appleton taxpayers … We are actively pursuing our options to repeal this irresponsible use of taxpayer dollars.”

One option involves a petition drive to force a referendum on the issue for the general election next April — a tall task that requires collecting nearly 4,000 signatures in 60 days.

Hanna defended the policy, which he said is needed to recruit and retain top talent in Appleton, and he chided opponents for linking the issue to budgetary constraints.

“This whole issue has somehow gotten wrapped up as a money issue,” Hanna said. “That is a misperception … To paint this whole issue as this expensive benefit that we’re extending is not really the right way to look at it.”

Domestic partnerships

In response to a new state law that eliminates collective bargaining powers for most public employees, Hanna worked with city employees and members of the council’s Human Resource Committee to overhaul Appleton’s benefits package for non-union employees.

Police, fire and transit workers are still able to bargain for separate benefits packages.

Under the city’s new non-union benefits policy, gay and lesbian employees who register for domestic partner status with the state can include their partners on the city’s health plan.

To enroll in the state’s domestic partner registry, couples must sign a declaration that they are both at least 18 years old; are not married to or in a domestic partnership with anyone else; share a common residence; are not nearer of kin to each other than second cousins; and are members of the same sex.

In Outagamie County, 88 couples have formed domestic partnerships since the status took effect in 2009. In Winnebago County, that figure stands at 76 couples. As of October 2010, 17 couples had registered for the status in Calumet County, where current figures were not available late last week.

The cost

Sandy Neisen, Appleton’s human resources director, relied on a 2009 report by the state Legislative Fiscal Bureau to calculate the estimated cost for adding same-sex domestic partners to Appleton’s health and dental plans.

In that report, state officials estimated Wisconsin’s health insurance costs would grow between 1.25 percent and 1.75 percent if both same-sex and opposite-sex domestic partners were added to the state health plan.

A separate provision in state law allows opposite-sex and same-sex couples to form a different type of domestic partnership, one that is primarily used to allocate pension benefits.

Appleton officials chose to include registered same-sex domestic partners in the city’s health and dental plans, but not the broader domestic partnership group that includes opposite-sex domestic partners. Hanna and other city leaders argued that opposite-sex couples already have access to those benefits through legal marriage.

With that in mind, Neisen estimated the rise in Appleton’s health care costs would be lower than the state estimate — closer to 1 percent.

The city typically spends about $9 million on health care each year, which is roughly 6 percent of the total $147 million budget.

Neisen calculated health care costs would rise about $90,000 next year. Dental costs would go up about $7,500.

“I (still) think that’s high for a number of reasons,” Neisen said. “In order to be eligible, (same-sex couples) have to go and register, and not all domestic partners are willing or want to or are able to go and register. Appleton is also more conservative than Madison or Milwaukee, where some of these (state estimates) came out of.”

Additionally, Neisen noted, many same-sex domestic partners could face a higher tax burden by accepting the benefits.

Unlike marriages, domestic partnerships are not recognized by the federal government. To comply with federal tax laws, gay and lesbian employees are sometimes required to treat the value of health coverage for their domestic partners as taxable income.

“That’s a negative,” Neisen explained. “There’s a cost to them taking the coverage.”

Just an estimate

Neisen and Hanna also said the $100,000 estimate may be completely off the mark because Appleton is self-insured, which means the city incurs health care costs only when employees or their families need medical care.

The city does not buy insurance coverage from a third party or pay premiums. Instead, Appleton estimates its risks and sets aside a pool of money accordingly.

“How much it actually costs the city depends upon how often that person goes to the doctor,” Hanna said. “Our risk exposure changes every time we exchange a single employee with a married employee, or every time one of our employees has a child. That adds somebody to our pool of insured people.”

Neisen said it was virtually impossible to know precisely how much domestic partners would cost the city.

“When someone gets married, we (set aside) more for them to have a family plan than a single plan,” Neisen said. “But if that couple never goes to the doctor, it doesn’t cost us anything. (But) the single person who has cancer could cost us a boat load.”

Recruitment, retention

Hanna is adamant that offering the health coverage to same-sex domestic partners would help the city entice top talent.

“This is really about being able to attract the broadest pool possible,” Hanna said. “I know people don’t buy that argument, but there is a reality to that … The bottom line, these are real people you’re talking about and they contribute a lot to this organization and a lot to our community.”

Appleton Taxpayers United leaders Bovee and Egelhoff dismissed that argument.

“The city of Appleton has many high-quality employees,” they wrote in an email exchange. “The current benefit package will continue to attract high-quality employees.”

Reversing the policy

In addition to possibly launching a petition drive, Appleton Taxpayers United intends to file public records requests of city officials to determine how and when the policy changes were developed internally.

“Our objective is to make sure (Hanna and the council) perform their duties in a responsible and transparent way,” Bovee and Egelhoff wrote. “Unfortunately, there appears to have been a rush to pass this policy without giving us the chance to voice our opposition.”

Appleton Taxpayers United will file requests of Hanna, diversity coordinator Flores and Ald. Curt Konetzke, chairman of the council’s human resources committee, who has announced plans to run for mayor next year.

Ald. Ed Baranowski — who voted against the policy with aldermen Jim Clemons, Christopher Croatt, Greg Dannecker, Jeffrey Jirschele and Michael Smith — filed a public records request of Flores the week the council adopted the policy.

Baranowski, who declined to comment to The P-C for this story, asked to see a list of recipients to a Sept. 8 email Flores sent titled, “Appleton Celebrates Same-Sex Domestic Partner Benefits.”

The P-C was included on that recipient list.

Flores said she does not feel pressured by the extra scrutiny.

“I get asked questions every day about the work we are doing at the city,” Flores said. “I support any policies brought forward by departments or city employees to make our workplace and city more inclusive for all individuals … I most certainly support it because it equals the playing field.”

Domestic Partnerships

State law offers two types of domestic partnerships: Chapter 40 and Chapter 770. Appleton’s plan falls under Chapter 770.

» Chapter 40: Couples may register for domestic partnerships if: Each person is at least 18 years old; neither person is married to or in a domestic partnership with someone else; the two people share a common residence; the two people are not nearer of kin than is permitted in a marriage; the two people consider each other to be like family; and they agree to be responsible for each other’s basic living expenses. This is open to same-sex and opposite-sex couples. This is primarily used by the state to allocate pension benefits.

» Chapter 770: Couples may register for domestic partnerships if: Each person is at least 18 years old; neither person is married to or in a domestic partnership with someone else; the two people share a common residence; the two people are not nearer of kin than second cousins; the two people are of the same sex. Chapter 770 also offers various legal protections, including hospital visitation rights.

» In addition to the state of Wisconsin, public employers that offer health benefits to domestic partners under either Chapter 40 or Chapter 770 include: City of Appleton, Dane County, De Pere School District, Gateway Technical College (Kenosha), city of Madison, Madison Metropolitan School District, city of Milwaukee, Milwaukee County, Oshkosh School District and Western Wisconsin Technical College

Sources: Wisconsin Statutes; Fair Wisconsin

Gay Methodist minister hopeful as suspension ends

July 23, 2011

As she awaited the jury’s June 23 verdict on her penalty for performing a same-sex wedding in violation of United Methodist Church rules, the Rev. Amy DeLong braced for the worst.

“I really didn’t expect to leave the trial with my credentials,” DeLong, 44, who lives in Polk County, told The Post-Crescent this week at the end of a 20-day suspension from ministerial duties that began July 1. “I woke up (the next) morning and was still the Rev. Amy DeLong. That has taken a while to sink in.”

During the course of a three-day trial at Peace United Methodist Church in Kaukauna, a 13-member panel of Methodist ministers from across Wisconsin unanimously convicted DeLong for officiating the 2009 wedding despite a prohibition on the practice in the church’s Book of Discipline.

The trial over DeLong’s defiance of church law drew national attention as Christian denominations across the country attempt to reconcile moral conviction and tradition with a secular culture that has increasingly embraced same-sex unions under the banner of equality and social justice.

Her 20-day suspension over, DeLong, who has advocated for greater acceptance of same-sex relationships within the Methodist church, wouldn’t rule out presiding over another same-sex wedding in the future.

“I (officiate weddings) for folks that I deem are qualified … folks who demonstrate a genuine love for each other and respect for each other,” said DeLong, who was ordained in 1997. “I would not categorically refuse to do it just because of somebody’s sexual orientation. I would be willing to do it with a couple that I thought was fit for marriage.”

The jury instructed DeLong to use the suspension for “spiritual discernment” about a memo she will draft for clergy on ways to “resolve issues that harm the clergy covenant, create an adversarial spirit or lead to future clergy trials.” If DeLong misses a Jan. 1 deadline for the draft, she faces a one-year suspension, which would start June 3, 2012.

She must work on the document with Bishop Linda Lee, head of the Wisconsin Conference of the United Methodist Church; the Rev. Jorge Mayorga Solis, who was DeLong’s supervisor at the time of the 2009 wedding; the Rev. Richard Strait, chairman of the board of ordained ministry; and a fourth minister to be appointed by DeLong.

“If any one of them says that they cannot do that, I will then accept the one-year suspension,” DeLong said Thursday morning.

Lee told The P-C on Thursday she, Solis and Strait were prepared to work with DeLong on the memo.

“I’m looking forward to the possibilities of offering something to our conference and perhaps to the greater church that is a restorative process or practice,” Lee said. “I’m actually looking forward to some good outcomes.”

The jury acquitted DeLong on a second charge of being a “self-avowed practicing homosexual” in a 12-to-1 vote. The United Methodist Church allows gays and lesbians to serve as ministers, but only if they remain celibate.

DeLong registered for domestic partnership status with her partner in 2009, but jurors did not think church counsel offered “clear and convincing proof” DeLong ever engaged in prohibited sexual conduct with a person of the same gender.

National scope

Sandwiched between a June 17 resolution by the United Nations’ Human Rights Council affirming gay rights and a June 24 vote by the New York state Senate to legalize same-sex marriage, DeLong’s trial cleanly framed the national debate and drew a national audience.

“The issue of homosexuality is in the forefront of our culture, and a lot of people are wrestling with what is a faithful, Christian response to that issue,” said the Rev. Tom Lambrecht, 56, former pastor at Faith Community Church in Greenville who served as church counsel during the trial. Lambrecht has since become vice president and general manager of Good News, a Houston-based evangelical group that advocates strict enforcement of church laws on gay clergy and same-sex marriage.

Lambrecht said growing acceptance of same-sex relationships in secular and political arenas has forced conservative Methodists who support existing church law to strike a defensive posture.

“It makes it more challenging to explain and defend the church’s perspective on the issue,” said Lambrecht, a graduate of Appleton’s Lawrence University who was first ordained in 1980. “Culture has a great influence on the church. What we in the church portray is the fact that God’s will for us as human beings is often not in sync with what the culture thinks is the best. … In many ways, we see ourselves as Christians living a countercultural lifestyle. That’s a little bit hard to do, because people feel that cultural pressure.”

To the same point, DeLong cast her trial as a “segment” of a broader movement toward greater inclusion of gays and lesbians into all parts of society.

“I think the issue of full human rights for gay and lesbian people is just a really important topic right now,” she said. “For me, one of the things that was gratifying was how many people both in the church and out of the church were just looking for a sign of hope that the church was going to do the right thing.”

Lambrecht did not share DeLong’s characterization of the “right thing.”

“For the church and for evangelicals, the issue of homosexuality is a test of our faithfulness to Scripture,” he said. “If we as a church decide despite clear Scriptural teaching we’re going to go in a different direction, that says we are willing to set aside Scripture in areas that are uncomfortable for us or that we disagree with. It threatens the integrity of the Christian faith as a whole.”

Future of the Methodist church

DeLong and Lambrecht agreed the trial and subsequent national focus would likely compel the church to revisit language on gay clergy and same-sex marriage in its Book of Discipline at the church-wide General Conference next year.

DeLong said supporters across the country expressed hope that her 20-day suspension signaled a shift within the church that could lead to a reversal in church law.

“I’ve had more emails now saying, ‘I feel more hopeful now about the United Methodist Church than I have in years,’” DeLong said. “The outcome of the trial really generated a whole lot of hope within people that we might be moving toward a day when inclusiveness can be realized.”

Lambrecht acknowledged that the trial “increases the pressure to deal with this issue.”

“I don’t know that it necessarily increases or decreases the likelihood of us changing our position on the issue,” he said. “I think there are a number of other things going on in the church that are of similar importance in terms of influencing where the church stands on this issue.”

For example, at least 160 Methodist ministers in the Northern Illinois Annual Conference pledged in June to defy church law and officiate same-sex weddings in that state, where civil unions took effect last month. This comes as the Methodist church is growing in Africa, where congregants are less accepting of same-sex relationships than are many American lay members.

That tension will be on full display next year as church rules are decided globally, not just in the U.S. The third-largest denomination in the U.S., the United Methodist Church has nearly 8 million lay members in America, and 12 million lay members worldwide. There are nearly 500 United Methodist Church congregations in the state of Wisconsin, including about 50 in northeast Wisconsin.

“The church is going to have to consider what is our expectation concerning pastors who, for reasons of conscience, don’t feel like they can uphold our church’s position,” Lambrecht said.

DeLong conceded it was unlikely church law would change at the General Conference next year.

“Mathematically, unless there’s a real shift in the hearts and minds of delegation members, we just don’t have the numbers,” she said. “But we’re people of faith.”

DeLong hoped church elders could reach a compromise.

“If somebody in good conscience cannot officiate at a same-gender union, then I say they shouldn’t have to,” she said. “The place of conscience gives all kinds of folks a place to stand. The last thing I want is for a same-gender couple to go and have their ceremony officiated by somebody who’s hostile to them.

“I do think that is a middle ground that could provide us some opportunities that haven’t been addressed in the past.”

— Michael Louis Vinson: 920-993-1000, ext. 368, or mvinson@postcrescent.com; on Twitter @MichaelVinson

Gay minister Amy DeLong gets 20-day suspension, writing assignment as United Methodist Church trial ends

June 24, 2011

KAUKAUNA — After nearly six hours of deliberation, a 13-member jury of Wisconsin Methodist clergy suspended the Rev. Amy DeLong from ministerial duties for 20 days, starting July 1, and noted the time is to be used for “spiritual discernment.”

DeLong, 44, of Polk County, was convicted Wednesday of performing a 2009 same-sex wedding in Menomonie in violation of United Methodist Church rules. She was acquitted on a 12-1 vote of a second charge of being a “self-avowed practicing homosexual.”

A 7-vote majority was needed to reach a penalty on the wedding charge. The final vote was 9-4.

The jury also ordered DeLong to draft a document outlining “procedures for clergy” to “resolve issues that harm clergy covenant” jointly with church leaders by Jan. 1, 2012. The document is to be presented at Wisconsin’s Annual Conference next summer.

If DeLong does not meet the January deadline, she will be suspended for one year, beginning June 3, 2012.

DeLong told The Post-Crescent she would “do my best” to meet the deadline, and cast the penalty as a victory.

“We’ve said all along that we have already been successful,” DeLong said. “We had a 100 percent chance of winning because our goal was to be faithful and to tell the truth. We have done that and we’ve broken the silence. We’ve opened the door a little bit so (gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender) people can hear a good message from the church.”

The Rev. Tom Lambrecht of Faith Community Church in Greenville, who served as counsel for the church during the trial, expressed satisfaction with the jury’s decision.

“I think it’s a very creative penalty,” Lambrecht said. “It recognizes that an offense was committed through the suspension, and it initiates a process that allows Rev. DeLong to reflect on what she’s learned from this experience and perhaps share some of those learnings with the rest of the annual conference. It certainly lifts up the harm that was done to the clergy covenant and the adversarial spirit that was created within our annual conference over this issue.”

Bishop Linda Lee, leader of the Wisconsin Conference of the United Methodist Church, issued a statement lamenting the “adversarial” nature of church trials, which she called a “heart-wrenching and painful process.”

“My prayer is that, as Christians, and as United Methodists, we will use this experience as a gateway to reconciliation, healing and restoration of our relationship with one another and with Christ,” Lee wrote.

Peace United Methodist Church in Kaukauna hosted the three-day trial, which began Tuesday.

Penalty options

The jury had broad discretion to choose DeLong’s penalty. Previous Methodist ministers found guilty of similar offenses have been stripped of their ministerial credentials. Others have been suspended temporarily.

During final arguments, Lambrecht asked the jury to suspend DeLong until she signed a pledge that she would not perform future same-sex weddings so long as church law forbids the practice.

About two hours before the 20-day suspension was announced, DeLong rejected Lambrecht’s proposal.

“Performing the holy union for the couple I did was one of the great joys of my ministry, and I would never sign a document that would indicate I wouldn’t do that again,” she told reporters. “To sign such a document would say to the couple that I married, ‘Your marriage is not valid.’ I’d never want to send them that message.”

In response, Lambrecht said, “That’s her choice. The penalty that we proposed put the ball in her court as far as how long she remains in suspension.”

Last arguments

In his final statement, Lambrecht asked the jury to consider the importance of their decision.

“This is not some insignificant violation of the terms of the discipline,” Lambrecht argued. “When any of us violates a provision such as this, we are setting ourselves over against the church that has ordained us, declaring that we will not submit to the authority of the church.”

Much would be at stake, he said, if an “inadequate penalty” encouraged other ministers to disobey church rules at will or led lay members to flee due to a perceived “lack of accountability.”

“No church or denomination can long survive such rendering of its covenant,” Lambrecht said.

The Rev. Scott Campbell, counsel for DeLong, also asked the jury to think about the broader implications of their decision and invoked movements in secular culture to embrace same-sex relationships, including the repeal of the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy and a recent United Nations resolution affirming gay rights.

“Change is coming in the church and in the world,” Campbell said. “Signs are all around us in the church and in the world.”

Campbell said church leaders have resisted that change and used church law as “a club to coerce our clergy into violating their own consciences.”

“This is not violation of covenant, but rather a vindication of conscience,” Campbell continued. “These are not the seeds of schism but the sowing of our salvation. We are not engaged in the abrogation of accountability, but in the creation of community. God is bringing forth something new in our midst.”

In closing, Campbell told the jury, “Let the penalty fit the crime.”

United Methodist trial of gay minister Amy DeLong enters penalty phase

June 23, 2011

KAUKAUNA — A jury of Wisconsin Methodist clergy will meet this morning to decide the punishment for an openly gay minister convicted Wednesday of performing a 2009 wedding for a lesbian couple in violation of United Methodist Church rules.

The 13-member jury’s decision to convict the Rev. Amy DeLong, 44, of Polk County, on the charge was unanimous.

Church rules give the jury wide latitude to choose DeLong’s punishment.

In the past, some Methodist clergy found guilty of similar offenses have been stripped of their ministerial credentials. Others have been suspended temporarily.

The jury acquitted DeLong in a 12-1 vote on a second charge of being a “self-avowed practicing homosexual.”

The United Methodist Church permits gay and lesbian ministers to serve, as long as they remain celibate.

DeLong’s counsel argued during the trial that the church had no evidence she ever engaged in prohibited sexual activity, but did not dispute facts surrounding the September 2009 wedding in Menomonie or DeLong’s November 2009 domestic partnership registration.

During post-conviction testimony, Dr. Phil Wogaman, a former president of the American Theological Society, encouraged the jury to consider DeLong’s intent in performing the wedding and to choose a punishment proportionate to the offense.

“Was her action a self-serving action … or was it in response to wider teachings in the (church’s Book of) Discipline?” Wogaman asked. “There’s something more at stake here than law.”

Testimony

The second day of the trial, which began at Peace United Methodist Church in Kaukauna on Tuesday, included dramatic testimony from DeLong.

Dressed in all black with spiky blond hair, DeLong refused to discuss the sexual nature of her relationship with her partner when pressed by church counsel, the Rev. Tom Lambrecht, pastor at Faith Community Church in Greenville.

“Does your relationship with your partner include genital contact?” Lambrecht asked DeLong, to audible gasps and groans from the audience.

“There is no way, when you are trying to do me harm, that I am going to answer that question,” DeLong volleyed back.

Lambrecht implored DeLong to “please understand my reluctance” to ask the question.

“I understand that the answer is really important to you,” DeLong said. “(But) you’re fishing for facts that should have been established (before the trial).”

DeLong’s counsel argued a church investigation committee bore the responsibility to ask DeLong about her sexual history during a pretrial review process. Once the trial started, her team argued, it was too late for church counsel to collect that evidence.

Prior to the pointed exchange, DeLong did offer a characterization of her relationship with her partner, calling it superior to many heterosexual marriages.

“Val is the love of my life,” DeLong said. “I can’t imagine my life without her. I committed my life to her and she’s committed her life to me … we share everything together. We care for each other deeply.”

Closing arguments

In his closing argument, Lambrecht told the jurors they had a simple question to answer: Did DeLong violate church law?

“We are called here today to put aside our own personal opinions on homosexuality,” Lambrecht said in a soft, but clear voice. “The issue in this trial is not homosexuality per se. Instead, it is about the integrity of our clergy covenant.”

Lambrecht argued clergy cannot be permitted to “unilaterally disobey” church rules, saying it could lead to “chaos,” “schism,” “anarchy” or “disintegration.”

“It puts the individual above the covenant,” Lambrecht said.

DeLong’s counsel, the Rev. Scott Campbell of Cambridge, Mass., asked the jury to consider a wider context in his closing statement.

“You have come to one of those watershed moments in life,” Campbell said. “The eyes of the church are upon you today … the world is watching as well. There are thousands beyond these walls who will form their impression of the United Methodist Church by what they read of your decision.”

On the charge related to DeLong’s sexual practices, Campbell rejected the church’s position that DeLong told church leaders she is a “practicing” lesbian, without disputing that she is in a committed relationship with another woman.

Campbell said the church’s definition of “practicing” refers to engaging in prohibited “genital sexual acts” with a person of the same gender.

“That is the test of the word ‘practicing’ that has been set up by the highest court in United Methodism,” Campbell said. “The church (has not) produced a single shred of evidence that she has so acknowledged.”

In his rebuttal, Lambrecht challenged Campbell’s characterization.

“At any point along the process it would have taken a simple denial on her part to stop that process,” Lambrecht said.

On the charge related to the 2009 wedding, Campbell contended DeLong acted within the confines of her ministry and faith.

“If Amy is guilty of anything, she is guilty of choosing to be guided by what is great and noble and grace-filled in our heritage,” Campbell said.

Reaction

The case has drawn national attention and dozens of Methodists have traveled from across the country to witness the proceedings in person.

The Rev. Jimmy Creech, 66, of North Carolina, who was stripped of his ministerial credentials in 1999 for performing a same-sex wedding, expressed both elation and disappointment with the jury’s decisions.

“I’m not surprised by the guilty verdict,” Creech said. “I think Amy and the defense team pretty much acknowledged that she did in fact conduct a service for these two women … I’m very hopeful that the jury will come back with a penalty that respects her ministry and the care that she gave to the two women.”

DeLong is known nationally for advocating greater acceptance of same-sex relationships within the church. In 2000, she co-edited “The Loyal Opposition: Struggling with the Church on Homosexuality,” a collection of essays that argue for a more inclusive church policy.

The third-largest denomination in the U.S., the United Methodist Church has nearly 8 million lay members and 46,000 ministers in America. The denomination has 12 million lay members worldwide.

There are nearly 500 United Methodist Church congregations in the state of Wisconsin, including about 50 in northeast Wisconsin.

Minister pleads not guilty in trial / Church calls proof of charges ‘clear and convincing’

June 22, 2011

KAUKAUNA — Nearly two years after she officiated a wedding ceremony for a lesbian couple and filed for domestic partnership status in Polk County, the Rev. Amy DeLong pleaded not guilty during a United Methodist Church trial Tuesday to charges she is a “self-avowed practicing homosexual” who performed that same-sex union in violation of church laws.

The United Methodist Church allows gay and lesbian ministers to serve, but only if they remain celibate. The church does not permit clergy to perform same-sex marriage rituals.

If convicted, DeLong could be stripped of her ministerial credentials.

Church counsel told a jury of 13 Wisconsin clergy and about 100 onlookers at Peace United Methodist Church in Kaukauna there is “clear and convincing” proof DeLong broke church rules, noting DeLong herself provided church leadership detailed information about the ceremony and her domestic partnership declaration, a voluntary disclosure that precipitated the charges and trial, which ends Thursday.

“DeLong is guilty of the charges made against her and must be made accountable,” the Rev. Tom Lambrecht said in a brief opening statement. He is the pastor of Faith Community Church in Greenville and a board member for an unofficial evangelical caucus called Good News, which has advocated strict enforcement of church law on gay clergy and gay marriage.

Tall and slender in a simple black suit, Lambrecht argued that DeLong had “chosen to willfully violate the terms of our (clergy) covenant and yet remain in it.”

Defense draws historical parallels

DeLong, 44, who could testify as early as today, does not dispute the facts of the case. But her counsel, the Rev. Scott Campbell said the evidence does not support the claim she is a self-proclaimed “practicing” homosexual.

He cited a previous ruling by the church’s Judicial Council that defined “practicing” homosexuality as engaging in prohibited “genital sexual acts” with a person of the same gender.

“What we will contest vigorously is that Amy ever self-avowed anything about what happens in the privacy of her relationship with (her partner) to a bishop or a district superintendent or any official body of the church,” Campbell said in his opening statement.

Campbell, a minister from Cambridge, Mass., cast the trial in sweeping historical context, at one point invoking the Salem witch trials of the 17th century.

“Just as history has judged slavery and the exclusion of women from ordained ministry, history will judge the church in this instance, too,” Campbell said to approving murmurs from the largely sympathetic audience in the church’s fellowship hall. “What we decide here is momentous. It will be with us for the rest of our lives.”

Pretrial motions outline strategies

Nearly a dozen ministers were dismissed during jury selection when they indicated that their strong opinions about church laws on gay clergy and gay marriage would affect their impair to consider the case impartially.

During a pretrial hearing, Campbell objected to presiding Bishop Clay Lee’s June 8 decision to pare the defense’s witness list from eight to three, explaining that much of DeLong’s case would be undercut by that decision.

DeLong’s counsel intended to call a half-dozen church leaders to testify that they had been aware of her sexual orientation and same-sex relationship for 11 years. Campbell argued the church had “forfeited” its right to charge DeLong by “colluding” with her for so long.

Bishop Clay Lee ruled such testimony was irrelevant to the trial.

When Bishop Linda Lee, leader of the Wisconsin Conference of the United Methodist Church, convened the trial shortly after noon she called it a “heart-wrenching time in the life of the church.”

“Our process is an adversarial one,” she lamented. “Somebody has to win and somebody has to lose.”

Lee then offered a prayer “that some good will come out of what is done here” and that God would “come and fill your lambs with peace.”

Trial draws national attention

About 40 DeLong supporters who poured into Kaukauna from across the country held a prayer service on the church lawn less before the pretrial hearing began.

Awash in rainbow pastels that adorned ribbons, lanyards and vests, the crowd served as a visual reminder that this trial comes in the middle of Gay Pride month.

Ed Hoar, 67, of Ohio, Steve Clunn, 49, of Washington, D.C., and Will Green, 30, of Massachusetts, said they wanted to witness the trial firsthand.

“I want to see what’s happening so I can go back and tell the story in first person,” Hoar said. “More people need to hear the story. Amy is sacrificing her credentials in order to get the story out.”

DeLong is known nationally for advocating greater acceptance of homosexuality within the church. In 2000, she co-edited “The Loyal Opposition: Struggling with the Church on Homosexuality,” a collection of essays that argue for a more inclusive church policy.

In the U.S., the United Methodist Church has nearly 8 million lay members and 46,000 ministers. There are nearly 500 United Methodist Church congregations in the state of Wisconsin, including about 50 in northeast Wisconsin.

Kaukauna trial of the Rev. Amy DeLong mirrors national debate on gay clergy, marriage

June 21, 2011

KAUKAUNA — As she prepared to stand trial this week for officiating a 2009 same-sex wedding in violation of United Methodist Church rules, the Rev. Amy DeLong cast her defense as part of a larger movement to reform the church’s stance against openly gay clergy and same-sex unions.

“This trial is not about me,” DeLong told The Post-Crescent. “It’s about the bigger quest for justice and inclusiveness.”

During the three-day trial that begins this afternoon, DeLong, 44, of Polk County, will face a jury of 13 ministers at Peace United Methodist Church in Kaukauna on charges of being a “self-avowed homosexual” and for performing a holy union for a lesbian couple in Menomonie two years ago.

Both actions are prohibited in the United Methodist Church’s Book of Discipline. If convicted, DeLong could be stripped of her ministerial credentials.

A vocal advocate for church acceptance of gay congregants and clergy, DeLong does not dispute the charges, and has used the case as a platform to advance a church-wide conversation about religion and homosexuality.

“Whether it turns the church around, I don’t know, and it’s out of my control,” she said. “All I can do is be faithful in the next step I take and to hope that it makes a difference. What difference it will make, I can’t predict.”

The Rev. Thomas Lambrecht, pastor at Faith Community Church in Greenville who will serve as church counsel during the trial, has defended the church rules and sits on the board of Good News, an unofficial evangelical caucus within the denomination.

“I think scripture is very clear that our expression of the good gift of sexuality is to be reserved only within heterosexual marriage,” Lambrecht told the United Methodist News Service in February.

The public trial mirrors a passionate debate that has roiled denominations and congregations across the state and nation in private: How do you reconcile moral conviction and religious tradition with spiritual values that put a premium on equality, compassion and social justice? And how do you square church doctrine with a secular culture that is increasingly accepting of same-sex relationships?

Church history

The United Methodist Church first took up the issue in 1972 when the denomination’s Social Principles, which make up part of the Book of Discipline, were amended to include language that promoted an ethic of tolerance but stopped short of approving same-sex unions.

“Homosexuals no less than heterosexuals are persons of sacred worth who need the ministry and guidance of the church in their struggles for human fulfillment,” the Social Principles read at the time. “We insist that all persons are entitled to have their human and civil rights ensured, although we do not condone the practice of homosexuality and consider this incompatible with Christian teaching.”

In 1976, the Social Principles were changed to explicitly restrict marriage to heterosexual unions. By 1996, the rules decreed, “Ceremonies that celebrate homosexual unions shall not be conducted by our ministers and shall not be conducted in our churches.”

On the issue of gay clergy, a 1980 bid to amend church rules to ban “self-avowed practicing homosexual(s)” from serving as ministers failed, but similar language was added in 1984.

“These laws were in reaction to (gay) people being more open,” explained Sue Laurie, 55, of Chicago, who studied with DeLong at Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary in the mid-1990s. “Now we have this policy that’s a problem.”

In 2000, the church softened its position by including a paragraph that implored “families and churches not to reject or condemn their lesbian and gay members and friends. We commit ourselves to be in ministry for and with all persons.”

Public opinion

As the United Methodist Church has wrestled with these issues, public opinion on same-sex relationships — particularly same-sex marriage — has shifted considerably.

Thirty-nine states have adopted language that restricts legal marriage to a union between one man and one woman. But a Washington Post-ABC News poll in March showed that a slim majority of Americans now support same-sex marriage, up considerably from the 32 percent of Americans who favored it in 2004.

Same-sex marriage is now legal in five states and Washington, D.C., and the New York state legislature is expected to take up the issue this week.

Since 1999, seven states, including Wisconsin, have enacted domestic partnership protections and another seven states have adopted civil unions.

“I think it’s about justice and inclusiveness,” DeLong said. “For reasons I can’t explain the secular culture has grabbed onto that and embraced it faster than the church, which seems opposite of how it should be.”

Since the United Methodist Church approved the 1996 prohibition on performing same-sex unions, dozens of United Methodist ministers have openly disobeyed the scripture.

The Rev. Jimmy Creech of Nebraska was tried in 1999 for performing a wedding ceremony for two men and stripped of his ministerial credentials. That same year the Rev. Gregory Dell of Chicago had his credentials suspended for performing a same-sex ceremony.

Later that year, 69 United Methodist ministers gathered in a public building in San Francisco to bless a lesbian union. Charges were filed against the participants, but none of the ministers were brought to trial.

“The church does a good job of saying everybody’s welcome and God loves everybody,” DeLong said. “(But the church) then spends a whole lot of time and energy creating rules to define who’s in and who’s out.”

“I cannot separate my love for my partner from my love for the church,” DeLong continued. “I met my partner, (Valerie Ann Zellmer,) when we were both in Bible study as laypeople in the River Falls United Methodist Church … I didn’t really have a coming out just around my sexuality. I came out when I fell in love.”

In the U.S., the United Methodist Church has nearly 8 million lay members and 46,000 ministers. There are nearly 500 United Methodist Church congregations in the state of Wisconsin, including about 50 in Northeast Wisconsin.